About Kyle

Welcome! I am passionate about being with people in ways that deepen life and connection. I aim to invest in others like I have been invested in, so we can all continue on paths of healing, meaning, and purpose.

I was a very curious kid and still am, curious, not a kid. I am intrigued with our human journey—through struggle and triumph; connection and disconnection; valleys and mountain tops, and the space-between where most of life is lived. Growing up, I sometimes longed for more guidance and help making sense of things. I lived a lot in the privacy of my own mind. There were parts of me that I relied on to live day to day, and their were parts I had no idea I was cutoff from. Unfortunately at the time, I didn’t see struggles as part of me, but instead as me. Eventually, with the help of skilled and caring partners, I learned how to love myself more deeply, from my essence that I call self or soul– to foster love and relief for parts of me that carry burdens, and parts that try to protect me. I remember telling a mentor when I was in my early twenties that it felt like I had a big valve on the side of my neck, that was often closed, leaving me “in my head.” Sometimes life experiences, or the needs of my body would burst open the valve, which could be overwhelming. I now see these “floods” of emotion and body-sensation as my many parts that were trying to get my attention with their experience, needs, and wisdom. Some people have the opposite experience, of having so much body-input they find it hard to focus or relax.

Through careful listening and compassion, these parts of us can release the burdens and extreme roles they carry, and find a more genuine and spacious home within us. Life is never easy, but I believe we can find hope and connection to ourselves and others, as we learn to let our amazing souls shine.

Whether you are on a healing journey like I’ve described above, or are ready for your next step in growth and expression, I am excited to partner with you.

My seeking led me to formal study and development focused on a “systems” perspective that explores the interplay of the many contexts that shape us. I believe people are good and do the best they can. When struggles and “symptoms” arise, they are in context and not because the person is “bad” or somehow lacking in essence. I value people’s strengths and expertise on their own life, focusing less on diagnoses and more on eliciting meaning and personal author-ity.

Practicing as a Marriage & Family Therapist is a good fit for me considering these perspectives and values. In addition to individual and family counseling, I provide post-graduate therapy supervision to licensees, consult about the integration of the Internal Family Systems model, body-based practice, and spiritually-integrated approaches. I also enjoy my work with spiritual care trainees in the hospital setting. I learn many lessons from my community in St. Paul, which straddles the worlds of gentrification and racial and socio-economic diversity. I am both part of a multi-racial family, and the dominant culture, and am committed to cultural humility and growth. I enjoy running around the bluffs of the Mississippi, maintaining my old house, and traveling, especially to Thailand. I live with my spouse, daughter, cat and dog.

Education, Credentials & Training

  • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (MN Lic. # 1670)
  • MN LMFT Board Approved Supervisor
  • Internal Family Systems, Level 3 Trained
  • ACPE Certified Educator
  • B.S. in Psychology
  • M.Div. with Marriage & Family Studies Concentration
  • Post-Graduate Certificate in Marriage & Family Therapy

Guiding Words

Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands.

Bell Hooks

If we were all fully Self-led, all parts and people would be welcome. One quality of Self is connectedness–not only the desire to connect, but the in-our-bones knowledge that we are all connected, so when one of us suffers, we all suffer.

Richard Schwartz

No one is rich enough that they can’t receive; no one is poor enough that they can’t give.

Emmanuel Mulenga
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